Thursday, 23 July 2015

Tips and Tricks for Self-Love

Hello !

On Tuesday I talked about how to treat you body and a few ideas on how to feel better about yourself from the inside out ! ( If you missed it you can read it here ) So Today lets talk about a few simple bits and bobs that you can incorporate into your everyday life to increase your happiness and self esteem :)

  • Make a positivity book ! Buy a small notebook and keep it by your bedside. Every night write one good thing that happened or made you smile each day no matter how bad your day was. When you look back through it, you'll see it was a pretty good life :)
  • Just let yourself live. Get rid of the endless routines and scheduling ( I speak from experience here ) I got to a point where I had to have a schedule and if it went wrong then I'd get panicky but that meant it had to be planned to the minute which made me feel overwhelmed and snowed under ! Neither of these are good. I found the best way to break off from this is to make a list of 3 things each day that you'd LIKE to achieve. Just little things and it doesn't matter if you don't do them. I just find it helps me give my day a sense of purpose !
  • DRESS FOR YOU ! I can't highlight this enough. Dress however you feel most confident. This is about making you feel good in yourself. Take some time to go shopping, try on lots of different clothes and don't buy anything unless it makes you feel ready to take on the world ! There's a brilliant chapter on this in Louise Pentland's new book, Life With A Sprinkle Of Glitter . A book I would happily recommend to anyone :)
  • Do something you're good at ... or find something you're good at :) It's really important to have a hobby that makes you feel good about yourself , it could help you meet people, build your self esteem, help you relax and way more ! If you haven't already got a hobby that you enjoyed ( If you have one already but you don't enjoy, just leave it. If it's not making you happy it's not worth your time ) then don't sit there thinking that your useless with no talents. You are talented but you're not going to find out what at , if you don't go out giving stuff a go <3
  • Do something you're not good at ! ... Seriously, try something new . You're not going to be good at it at first but stick with it and you can do it :) I really wanted to start yoga for ages and then the other week I joined a class and I was AWFUL ! I fell onto the woman next to me. I fell flat on my face. Honestly, you name it, I fell on it hehe :) But I'm going back because I want to be good at it and that's going to take a long time but it will be worth it :)
  • Self Date. I've only started thinking about it recently but I've found it really beneficial . Take some time to get to know who you are without the influence of other people. Buy a new book and go to the local coffee shop and treat yourself to reading with a yummy hot chocolate and extra marshmallows ! Or plan a perfect duvet day just for you . ( YOu can find my post " How to ... Duvet Day " here ) Dress yourself up and cook yourself a fancy meal for one ! Because you are worth it ! Let me know your ideas for self dating in the comments :)
  • Be compassionate. Be kind to others and you will feel so much happier and warm and fuzzy in yourself ! Try leaving a few hopeful notes a week or smiling at that stranger who you walked past this morning .
Finally, work for what YOU want to achieve. Many people realise way too late that they have been making their life choices especially with choosing careers, around what is expected of them ... no . You are better than that ! You are an amazing, complex human being and you can make your own choices and work to become whatever will make you happiest within yourself :)

I really hope some of these tips are helpful ! Let me know your favourite in the comments or if you have anymore tips feel free to share them :) And be sure to come back tomorrow for the final post of Self-Love week, I'm doing a DIY on how to make yourself a Self-Care box for those days when you're feeling a little crappy and need a lift or just a bit of TLC <3

Stay Strong <3 Stay Smiley :)

Lots of love, Marianne xxx

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14 comments:

  1. Love, love, love this post! I've thought about making a Positivity Book, too! And just taking some time out of each day to write down a few things I'm grateful for that happened during the day. It can be so easy to get sucked up in all the negativities of the world but turning your method of thinking around can make all the difference. Hope you're having a lovely Thursday! :)

    ~Lor @ lovelyandcozy.com ♥

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    1. Aww Thank you ! That's very sweet of you :) I would definitely recommend doing one ! It's difficult at first especially on days that don't stand out as brilliant but after a week it gets easier and I keep mine by my bedside so I remember to do it every night :) It's also a lovely thing to look back on <3

      lots of love, Marianne xxx

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  2. Really great post:) Have a nice day!

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    1. I'm very happy that you liked it :)

      lots of love, Marianne xxx

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  3. Oh my goodness, this is possibly the loveliest and most positive post I've ever read :) I absolutely love the idea of this series and these are all such helpful tips, I really want to do the first one now and am going to have to get myself a pretty notebook for it :)
    I also wanted to thank you for the lovely, supportive comment you left on my post about my decision to train as beauty therapist, your kind words meant the absolute world to me <3
    Love Holly x

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    1. That really made my day :) I'm really glad you like the series it took me ages to put together but the topic is just so important to me <3 You should definitely give the positivity book a go it helped me so so much :)

      No problem honey, I honestly believe that it's a wonderful thing that you're following your dreams! I found it really inspiring and I truly believe you can do it :)

      lots of love, Marianne xxx

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  4. Marianne, your blog has quickly become one of my favorites! I love your positivity so much! #1 is a great idea, I love finding one thing in your day no matter how small that was positive! You're right, if we focus on the positive we'll see how lucky we are and how great our life is! I just loved this post! XO -Kim
    www.thethirtysomethinglife.com

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    1. Thank you , so so so much :) That really made me smile ! I'm really glad people are liking that idea because it helped me so much when I finally did it and I wish I'd started it early and I'd love for it to help more people :)

      lots of love, Marianne xxx

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  5. Amen to all of these sister! Dress for you YES YES YES!!! The part about yoga made me giggle but also filled me with joy and inspiration, sometimes we have give things a go, look silly, have fun with it and learn! :)

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    1. I spent a lot of time thinking I had to have a constant style that always blended in but now I've learnt it's about dressing however you're most comfortable ! :) Yes, my attempt at yoga was ummm shall we say "interesting" hehe but in the end I enjoyed it however rubbish I was ! It's really important to learn how to be bad at things and be okay with that until you get better at it :)

      lots of love, Marianne xxx

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  6. This is a lovely blog post thank you for sharing
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    1. I'm glad you enjoyed it :)

      lots of love, Marianne xxx

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  7. I can't think of a time where I didn't stress myself out for not getting things done. It's so easy to get lost in constantly getting everything done. I mean sometimes you just have to learn to breathe and take things in. I want to make a habit of taking time out of my day to just maybe have some lunch and enjoy the world around me. I also want to start a positivity book! I actually gave a little notebook (as a gift) to one of my very good friends that was titled "My little book of Happy things" and I told her to only write good things in it, like moments where she was truly happy and so I want to do that for myself as well :) These are all really great tips :) I'll be sure to keep them all in mind <3

    -Crystal
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    1. I've been thinking a lot about stuff like that for example I always have breakfast while watching tv but I really want to start eating breakfast in the quiet and just appreciating the world :) Aww that's a lovely gift ! I'm sure she loved it <3 I would really recommend starting a positivity book yourself it makes such a massive difference to your life :)

      lots of love, Marianne xxx

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